Dear Suzie, will he ever like me? i really really like this boy, and he says that he aint interested because im too young. im 14 and hes 16. whenever i see him he tends to gently push me or something like that, my friends tell me thats his way of flirting. how can i tell? is there a possability he likes me or am i getting my hopes up? how do i get him to like me? please please help!!
You can’t make someone like you or want to have a relationship with you. You could bully or blackmail them into doing so, or make yourself such a doormat or victim that they feel they’d be passing up a great chance if they don’t take advantage and abuse you. One reason I think this is a really nice, sensible boy is the fact that at 16 he doesn’t want to go that route by having a 14 year old as a girlfriend.
He’s right. You are too young. 16 year olds are interested in sex. They’re at the age when they want and need to explore their own sexuality and sexual relationships. It’s fine if and when they do this amongst themselves, with young people their own age. In that situation, the balance of power and the appreciation of risk is about equal. And they are more likely to be sensible and protect themselves from sexual infections and pregnancy.
You, on the other hand, are two years younger at an age when two years means an awful lot. For a start, sex with you would be illegal. You may well do things you don’t really want to do or are not really ready to do simply to keep him or impress him. Either way, it’s a recipe for disaster.
It doesn’t matter if he does fancy you or whether he’s actually trying to let you down nicely. Wait until you’re 16 before going out with 16 year olds.