too shy to kiss

Dear Suzie,

i have a BF i dont know what to talk about and he’s rele shy so i cant kiss him. what do i talk about and i dont know how to make him less shy. we havent been going out for long but..we feel the same way about eachother

plz help me

How lovely that you feel the same way about each other! That’s a good start to any relationship.

First loves are awkward, especially when you feel overwhelmed by the newness and wonder of it all. But there’s nothing wrong with that – it’s a lot better than plunging ahead because underneath it all you don’t really care about each other.

What can you talk about? The latest music you’ve heard, book you’re read, tv programme you’ve seen, movie you’d like to see. How school is going – did he do that homework and what did he think about it. Have you read the newspaper lately and what do you make of what’s going on in the world. What exams you’re taking and why – what do you want to do with yourself when you leave school. What you want to do with your life, in the immediate and far future. What you’d like to do this Easter break and in the summer break. What would you like to do together the next time you see each other…

The key is to think of what you talk about with your friends, your parents, anyone you talk with. He’s no different or special in that way – you should talk to him in the same way and about the same things as you do anyone else. The more you know each other, the easier it will become. Good luck!

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